Walking state is a technique that enables your client to prepare and rehearse for a meeting that will have a far greater positive impact on the result than the majority of rehearsal approaches. It will also introduce the concept of the huge choice of useful states available to all of us.
Using your calibration skills ensure that your client does have a
visual and auditory movie of the meeting.
Brainstorm a large number of states, ensure you have at least one of the
families of Fierce, Tender and playful.
Do spend time asking questions when your client is 'walking the states.'
You're teaching him or her to start to recognise how state and posture
are related.
Have your client identify a future meeting that he or she would like
to go particularly well.
You may suggest to your client that this exercise is an exploration to
increase their behavioural options - which will lead to them being more
successful at the meeting.
Have them imagine seeing and hearing a 10-20 second movie of them
interacting with this person at the meeting.
Ask them to break state, for example by asking them the colour of the
carpet.
Brainstorm with them, preferably on a whiteboard a large whiteboard,
states that might be useful in the context of the meeting.
As practitioner it's important for the next stage you 'go first', when
you're walking with your client asking then to walk 'as if' in a
particular state - you get into that state first.
Have then choose three of the states to explore in the context of this
meeting, then have them walk 'as if' they were in the first state. As
they walk ask them questions about their physiology and breathing while
in that state. Is their walking fast or slow? Where are breathing from?
Is their breathing fast or slow? How are their shoulders? Where is there
attention? etc etc.
Repeat the about with the other two states. Then ask them to walk with a
representation (whatever that means?) of all three states. Then ask them
to stop and ask them 'through the lens' of those three states play the
movie again and notice what changes - however small or large the change
may be.
Copyright 2007 PPI Business NLP with thanks to John Grinder
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